How does grief affect older adults?
Older adults may not express grief in the same way as other adults. Older adults are more likely to become physically ill after a major loss. They may already have a chronic physical illness or other conditions that interfere with their ability to grieve or that become worse when they are grieving.
Also, older adults may be likely to develop complications associated with grieving. Older adults may be more likely than other people to experience several losses in a short period of time.
Helping an older adult cope with grief
Here are some ways you can help an older adult who is grieving.
- Spend time with the person.
An older adult who often seems to be alone can benefit from your company. Invite them to go for a walk or have a cup of coffee. Feelings of loneliness may last for a long time when an older adult has lost something or someone special, especially a spouse.
- Give the person time.
Sometimes older adults need more time to become aware of their feelings and express them. Sometimes they need more time to complete other activities as well. Giving an older person extra time shows that you are concerned and respectful of the person's needs.
- Point out signs of sadness or changes in behavior.
This may help the person become aware of their feelings and may help the person feel more comfortable talking with you.
- Talk about the loss.
- Ask the person to talk about their loss. Older people are often helped by sharing memories of the lost person.
- Older adults often have more than one loss to deal with at a time. Talking about each separate loss may help identify the person's feelings. Separating losses from one another may also help the person feel less overwhelmed and more able to cope with emotional distress.
- Watch for signs of depression.
If you have concerns that an older adult is showing signs of depression, talk with a health professional.
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